There she is. The one I love to hate. The one with the perkier boobs, tighter butt and vivacious personality. She probably eats whatever she wants and still maintains a disgusting size two. Nevermind that she trains hard, has a positive attitude and is friendly to folks. She just has superior genetics, and my parents are fat. Thanks a lot, Mom and Dad. It's all your fault (as are all of my other issues). I know she's hiding flaws under that spandex. Heck, she's probably had cosmetic surgery. Ugh, she absolutely annoys me (and yet I want her body! her life! her very soul!).
Alright, ladies. Let's be honest. Have you ever been part of a conversation like that? Has that scenario ever played out in your head? I'm certain that women have been snarky to one another since the beginning of time. I'll even bet Eve and her girlfriends sat around the apple tree and gossiped about that woman they met at the well.
Which brings me to one of my favorite quotes: "Your candle burns no brighter by extinguishing someone else's." Why is it a favorite? Because it convicts me. Whenever my insecurities creep in and I catch myself coveting another person's assets, I repeat this quote to myself. And if the situation won't turn awkward, I make a point to approach the person and compliment her on the very thing that brought about my judgment. Doing so frees me from the negativity, and edifies us both through the positive interaction. Beyond that, it opens the door to a potential friendship, where I learn that this woman is a lot like me. She, too, struggles with her own fears, failures and imperfections, and that compliment I gave her made her day.
My point is, engaging in snide conversations, creating unnecessary comparisons and making excuses waste a ton of energy. Moreover, they indicate a weakness in character and a reflection of your self esteem. In all fairness, the impossible images and expectations that society puts upon females can bring out the worst in all of us, myself included. But I encourage you to find ways to overcome that, such as the example I gave of complimenting other women, offering a genuine smile and going out of your way to make someone's day a little better.
So, the next time you run into that woman, or any female who exhibits a trait(s) you admire, rather than blowing out her candle, say something nice. And with that, both candles will burn brighter, making this world a warmer, kinder place.
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